Isabel agreed to go even though she had a meeting with a prospective client, who wanted her to be their official photographer, later that day.
I was already home before she got back and immediately she walked in I started smiling because she looked so beautiful, and classy. As usual, she didn't understand why I reacted that way, because she didn't think there was anything spectacular about the way she looked. I told her that I was so proud of her and loved the fact that she represented our family well.
When I was done talking she had this look on her face and then said "I was wondering why a lot of people were starring at me in David's school, I guess it could be because of the way I am dressed" She told me that some students who were the most popular in my son's class, asked her more than two times if she was his sister. When she got into the classroom for the actual event, these same students kept talking to her, and wanted her to stand by their table anytime she went by them. I laughed so hard.
A few hours later, my son returned home happier than ever and started telling us how those kids who didn't want to be friends with him before, were flocking around him. He said that after Isabel left, they all came and started asking him about her, his home, family, where we were from, and so on. Questions they didn't bother to ask him before. His ego was boosted, he gained more clout than he ever had, and it was all because his sister came to school looking like a classy babe.
|My Mother and Her Colleagues|
Whenever our parents were asked to come to school for meetings, my dad was always present. However, on special occasions, I would ask my mum to come dressed in her formal outfits. I did this because most people were used to seeing fathers dressed formally, but not a lot of them had educated mothers who worked in a bank, let alone manage it. So when my dad came in, it was normal. But when my mother came, it was something spectacular. I had so many people ask me where she worked if she was Nigerian if they could visit me or even greet her, and this gave me such a confidence boost.
People started looking at me with fresh eyes and respect. They began to imagine what growing up with a mum like her, would be. I didn't know how this affected my classmates until they started telling me they wished they lived in my house and had a mum like mine, who would make them proud.
My mother asked me why I specifically told her to wear very nice outfits for my school events, and I explained the effect it had on other students, and how people respected me more. She wanted to be sure we were not just being silly and vain. So I made her understand that it was not only about the looks, but what it meant to see a woman looking like the BOSS, which could help us as kids to avoid bullying. The fact that people gave you more respect because they saw a well-put-together family; was enough to provide you with the confidence you needed to hold your head up.
Fast forward to 2019, and this still has the same effect on our kids in school. So while some of us may see this as trivial and unnecessary, we have to consider how it makes our children feel when they are at a certain age. I have seen mothers attend school activities in their sweatshirts, hair nets, etc. I am not saying that there is anything wrong with dressing comfortably, but we also have to consider what our kids and their friends see WHEN THEY SEE US.