Stella Damasus

As absurd as this might sound, I have battled with my own insecurities.

Most people who know me may never believe this statement because of the way they have perceived my personality.
I appear to be very bold and confident, more outspoken than most people. What they didn't realize was that SPEAKING for me was my therapy from those INSECURITIES, just the way music helps to heal the hurting.

Have you ever wondered why people EASILY misunderstand you no matter how hard you try to get it right or impress them?

If your answer is yes then you are lot like me and this article is for you. But if your answer is no, then please forward this article to anyone who fits the description. 

Do you know that you can make money without leaving your home?

Some days ago, I made a statement that sparked up a lot of controversy among my readers. So, I decided to write this blog to clarify certain misconceptions. I said that it was important for every woman especially married women, to have another stream of income for her personal account.
When I wrote this, some women who were stay at home mums were really ticked off. As far as they were concerned I was judging them for their decision to stay at home. One of them sent an email saying "Stella, do you really think it was my choice to get a degree and then sit at home? Don't you realize that a lot of us have even more qualifications than our husbands but had to make the ultimate sacrifice of staying at home to raise the kids? Do you expect us to refuse our husbands when they ask us to stay home?"

A few days ago I was reminded that it was okay to be vulnerable and human. I seem to have forgotten how relaxing it can be to let it all out sometimes, not caring if I would be judged, laughed at or insulted.
I had to remember that it was important to share some experiences that may actually save or help someone who is probably going through the same thing.

I listened to Daniel's show WURD UP on i2radio.net yesterday and he said some things that really hit home for me.

People are so used to saying the same things, responding the same way, appearing the same way, just so that they are politically correct or so we can keep up appearances.
Daniel was of the opinion that we should allow ourselves be vulnerable and real sometimes.
We are human so it's okay to hurt, it's okay to be sad, it's okay to feel helpless.
Sometimes, we should allow ourselves to breakdown and we are allowed to be honest too.