... Now, how many children between the ages of nine and 14 who visit the
internet have the strong will power to say, no I am not going into this
site because I know it is bad. Let’s be honest, how many of our kids can
actually say “it doesn’t matter if I am alone; I am not going into this
site.” As far as they are concerned, I’m not doing anything bad, I’m
not trying it out with anybody, I am just looking, and it’s easy because
they are not paying for the internet, their parents made it available,
it is free for them, they can look and once a child goes into such sites
it arouses them, it makes them so excited that at any opportunity they
have when they are alone, they would try to see more. It is research
that has been done and science has proven that once the human mind
absorbs things that can do things to the body especially at that age
that is new to them and they can’t control the feelings that they are
getting, the excitement that is derived from those feelings will drive
them to do more.
I am just saying that we should take out time to
monitor what our kids are exposed to. Especially those of us that have
cable that have parental control that would prevent the kids from
watching programs that are above their age, not by leaving them to
chance and talking but by doing it yourself and make sure that they
don’t have access to some particular channels and programs. Same goes
for the internet, it is very important that we monitor the kind of things
they are exposed to. If you decide to restrict your children from
internet access totally, there’s an alternative means of doing research
because laptops now can have different educational applications
installed on them for different topics like Math’s, Geography, General
Knowledge and so many more just so that you are rest assured that the
only things your kids have access to are these applications. Even though
I don’t know much about technology now, I have been told that they have
created a lot of things for children to protect them from a lot so that
you don’t have to be afraid about what they are exposed to.
I’m
just advising that we take time out to find out what recent technology
is available now that will help our children and prevent them from being
exposed to all these things.
I’m sorry to say this knowing that I
might offend a lot of people, but I also do not subscribe to parents
giving their children Blackberry Smart phones before they are 15 or 16
because as adults most of us already have issues with the kind of chats
we have on BB. It makes people closer to you than necessary, it is so
informal and playful that you can send just one emoticon and you are
already sending a signal to someone. You can lead someone on and flirt
without even realizing what you are doing and it is so fast with
Blackberry. If we are going to be honest with ourselves, there are some
people on our BB’s that we always press ‘End Chat’ because we don’t want
other people to see the kind of conversations we have had with those
people even though those conversations are not really bad but the fact
that you are allowing someone BB you at certain odd times and use
certain words and certain emoticons on you and you find yourself
responding because you don’t want to be rude, that in itself as an adult
is not that easy to handle on less you are a very strict person , you
decide to delete people if you have nothing important to say or you
decide not to respond to unimportant messages but our children who are
very impressionable and vulnerable at that age, that are ready to
explore and have started to come to terms with the changes in their
bodies, the feelings that they are getting all of a sudden, the spots in
their body that arouse them that they didn’t know before now.
Imagine
what they would go through if they have Blackberry’s, all it takes is
for them to give their pins to anyone that asks and you don’t have to
know. It happens in Church, it happens in school, it happens at the
mall, it happens in the cinema, anywhere really. All it takes is for
someone to pass a paper to a kid and say cram this number, and we know
that kids cram things easily and before you know it they cram the pin,
they invite you and you start to talk crap and the next thing you are
meeting the person somewhere or in school and we don’t even bother to
check what our children go to school with, what they come back with.
Some of our children take gadgets to school that they have no business
taking there, some of them take extra clothes to school, believe me
younger girls are doing this now and younger boys are carrying things
that show them pictures that are nude everywhere they go. We just don’t
care anymore because we believe that with the money that we have we can
afford all these things, we can keep them busy, we can buy them
everything that they ask for just so that they can get off our backs so
we can have more time to work, then you spend most of your time working
and little or no time with your children then we wonder why the children
that belong to the rich parents are the ones committing all these
offences and crimes. They are not committing these crimes because they
need money, they are doing it for experiment, they do it most of the
time for attention but the wrong kind of attention and sometimes they do
it out of habit because they’ve been doing it since they were kids and
nobody noticed and they do it for fun.
So please, my advice is let
us all be careful with what we expose our children to, let us know what
our children are looking for on the internet, let’s not expose them to
Blackberry’s before they are old enough to handle whatever is coming
with it. Whatever it is that we can do to help our children and work
with them as much as we can, let us try and do it. It is left for us to
make sure that the future generations are doing what they are supposed
to do. It’s up to us to make sure that the generation coming after us right
the wrongs in our society and fix the things that have been destroyed
already.
Stella's Quote of the day: If you suspect your teenager is involved in an
unhealthy relationship or activity, ask and talk about it. Don’t be
afraid to be involved in your child’s life, find out all you can because
unwelcome action may prevent unpredictable tragedy.
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beautiful, wise words from a star, keep educating the world and God will bless you more. You are loved.
ReplyDeleteThis is the exact picture of our world today. Parents,teachers,youths and students, please let us join hands and stop this aberrant thing in our world today,thereby saving this generation from an impending doom. Thank you dear,for the enlightenment.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing this.
ReplyDeleteIt's alarming to see what most teenagers are exposed to and these web pages are just a click away.