Tuesday 27 November 2012


I just want to say a big thank you to all the people who came out with gifts for the displaced in the Delta state flood disaster.

It was an amazing experience which opened our eyes to the fact that Nigerians can be very caring and compassionate.

The truth is that eighty percent of the people who showed up at the two day event were not even from delta state.

Humbled and pleasantly surprised, I realized that in the heart of the average Nigerian lies peace and love. This is evident especially when there is trust.

Something very touching happened on the 11th of November which was the second day of the event.
A man came with his family to the venue, he came down and asked for the organizers and then asked his daughters to bring out the things they brought from the booth of the car. As they did that, he asked one of the organizers (Lamboginny) to walk to the car and meet someone who wanted to come by all means to donate the little she could. When Lambo got there he found a woman who had stroke, was paralysed and could hardly even talk. She managed to mutter a few words as she expressed how impressed she was that we put this kind of event together.

To my greatest shock I was told that she actually prayed for Lambo and our team. This woman could not talk properly and could not even walk but she forced everyone in her home to come out with her to give what they could.

I learnt a lesson from this woman and actually realized that we are not even doing enough to help.

A lot of other people especially our families and celebrity friends came out with relief materials, but judging by the amount of people who would normally come out, pay to watch a concert and fill up the Expo Hall at the Eko Hotels and Suites, I was still disappointed at the turn out.

I began to wonder why it is so easy to get people to come out and spend their money to watch a show that will only last for a few hours, but you cannot get them to come out and help to save the lives of women and children.

This time people were not asked to donate money, we only asked for food items, blankets, books, clothes, shoes, toys, mattresses etc. just so that these displaced people can survive in the camps until a solution to their problem is found

The one that hurt me the most was when a guy on twitter who I maintain is irresponsible and very silly sent a message to me publicly stating that I should stop asking people to help the displaced because it is the work of the government to help them. I had to respond publicly too so that he can realize the stupidity of what he was saying. I asked him if he was going to sit down and watch people suffer and die especially children because he feels that the government should do everything.

I asked him what he would do if this disaster had struck his own hometown wiping out his community. Would he sit back, relax and wait for his government to do everything?

Unfortunately he was not the only one with that same opinion as there were equally other very stupid people who agreed with the crap that he was saying.

I make no apologies for the words and names I am using to describe these people because I strongly believe that this is part of the reason our country is the way it is. A country where the so called future of tomorrow will sit down and wait for the same government they are condemning to do everything for them. No one is willing to come out and help to build the nation, they are not ready to play their part, they cannot even come out to make constructive suggestions. Instead they want to get rich quick, they want to sit down and expect the government to do everything so that they can come in and reap all the benefits.

When you have a country where a lot of youths do not think that some major issues should concern them, then where is the so called hope for tomorrow.

How can we hope for the youths to take over when they are not even interested in what is going on now let alone be a part of the solution.

I am using this opportunity to tell those that are following me on facebook and twitter that I will no longer entertain negative talk from anyone. If you have nothing good to say or an idea or a solution to anything, then you are better off not saying anything. Save me the stress of deleting or blocking you.

I want to communicate with positive minded people who have ideas to share and who are ready to make the world a better place. I want to communicate with hardworking people who want to show the world what they can do, I want to communicate with people who can encourage others through the good and the bad.

If you are not one of such people please do me the favour by unfollowing as quickly as you can.

To those on my social networks who have contributed in one way or the other positively even by encouragements, I say God bless you and thank you so much for being there. Much love to you all.

I would rather be a giver than a receiver, I would rather help than be helped and I would rather be a shoulder to be leaned on than look for a shoulder to lean on.

God save Nigeria.

Quote: whatever you do please remember that there is heaven and there is hell, and trust me Jesus is coming back real soon.


  1. May God bless our hands to really help... I just think you shouldn't let people's actions or inactions get @ u so much. Whatever u do, they must talk. May God bless u and all those who helped. Amen

  2. It is said that only trees that bear fruits attract stones...
    Thumbs up (and perhaps big toes too) for the excellent work you do!
    Thanks for being you!
    Cheers Ma'am!


  3. Reading about this makes my blood boil...that some individuals could be so heartless to say such a thing - that its government's responsibility! Somebody once quoted that every people get the leadership they deserve...I hate that quote but people that think this way almost make me want to believe in that quote.

    Just a few days ago, I blogged about how people were going to troop to a particular show and blow a million naira on securing sitting positions. Nobody makes noise about these things but they will make noise if Pastors acquire jets to assist their ministry work.

    Its annoying how people find it easy to talk...yet they wont stand up to do anything. That's why many of them never succeed past their salary struggle. You can't be blessed richly if you're not going to be a blessing.

    God bless you, Lamboginny and others for what you are doing.

    By the way, I love your song 'Love me quick' I'll be doing an entry on it soon on my blog.

  4. People shouldn't get out of bed to work daily then since we all have a right to life and it is the government's responsibility...

    That aside, I'm really impressed with the lady that came despite her ill health. It just goes to show that we all have something in us to give that others need.

    I think the world has become a selfish place where we all want to do things that benefit us, that's why people would rather pay for shows than donate to people in need.

    God bless and reward you, your team and everyone that donated abundantly. Public figures and celebrities should also take a cue from your works

  5. Hmmmm......keep the good work going Stella. People are so hard to please, the most controversial to please. Managing people indeed is a great task. Some people are just purely negative. They don't see anything good in the country...i really pity those with negative perspective, even despite odds and negativity abroad, even in US, they still say God bless America. Some Nigerians never see anything positive about the country no matter how small. A minister of God came to Nigeria and during one of the courses on leadership when the host was showing a state of Nigeria's problem and issues especially educational sector, it showed that 90% of students fail their exam especially their WAEC / NECO but immediately the man came on to speak, he said he would rather suggest that the host put 10% of students passed their WAEC / NECO while work is been done to improve the standard of education, whao that is been positive, i share such mentality. So Madam Stella, it hurts when people don't see what you see or share your positive mindset, let them be, lets hope they will one day see the light at the end of the dark tunnel and dream big to be responsible to the society....We lack community service in Nigeria and Africa generally, its not part of us but it would be something nice if we can apply that to our society. Thank you.