Stella Damasus

I wrote a blog a while ago called DATING MY ABUSER, and was shocked at the number of women who sent emails talking about the abuse they had faced. My heart was so heavy as I realized how bad things have gotten and how silent we have been over the years. One woman’s email really touched my heart and that is why I decided to share another experience.
Stripping myself naked in front of the world is not an easy thing to do, but when my experience encourages, heals and informs others, then it is the right thing to do.

I remember one day in 2009, I had just signed a contract with a new management company and they sent their marketing manager to take pictures of me so that they could build a press kit and other materials for work.
The man I was dating at the time was in my house for a visit, and we were both in the living room when the marketing manager came in. As he entered we exchanged pleasantries and I introduced him to my boyfriend who gave him the most arrogant and disgusting look ever.  The marketing manager brought out his hand to shake him but my boyfriend walked away and didn't even acknowledge his presence.
I apologized to the guy who was really shocked as he was sure they had never met. He was so confused and had to ask me if he did something wrong.  I was highly embarrassed but had to quickly change the subject as usual.
I say as usual because it was becoming a trend with my boyfriend.
I knew how arrogant my boyfriend could be but I didn't think it would be that bad.

"Stella, you are still single because you have raised your bar too high, you have set high expectations. You cannot afford to be too intelligent or knowledgeable because men don't like it. At the dinner table, you made him feel like you knew more than he did as regards social justice. Even if he didn't say it, I am sure he felt that way because he didn't ask for another date. Why do you keep doing this to yourself? It is a man's world, so in order to get hooked quickly, you need to DUMB IT DOWN"

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Hey lovelies, how have you all been?

I know you haven’t heard from me in a while and I apologize. I have been so busy working on different projects that I can’t wait to share with you, but before I do, I thought I should share something else I saw a few days ago instead.

So, my sisters and I have a group on WhatsApp, and a few days ago I received the shocker of my life when one of my sisters sent the image below to warn us (GRAPHIC IMAGE) 

Ooops!
I did it again.

So I forgot to tell you all that I was approached by TEAKISI.COM to write an article for them. You can actually check out my profile on the website.

The great news is that my first article has just been published and I am already receiving messages, questions and meeting requests because of it.
I wanted to share it with you, so that my dear supportive and loyal readers will not be left out.
 
It's called EXCUSE MY AFRICAN.
 
As an African girl who lives abroad, I have had a lot of experiences that made me realize that life is not what it seems. I actually thought that it would be easy for me to introduce myself as an African and it will be understood and accepted. Little did I know that to the foreigners, there is only one type of African and unfortunately, I am not that. 
 
Click on this link https://shar.es/1FmHCi to read the full article. 

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"In the spirit of the celebration of women, I want you to meet an amazing and inspiring AFRICAN woman Nneka. She contacted me and was wondering if I would profile her project. When she sent it to me I was blown away and reminded of the fact that no one can fully understand the beauty, strength and magic of the BLACK GIRL. 
ENJOY this article and the vibrant pictures"- Stella Damasus

 I was watching an episode of my favorite television series LAW AND ORDER (SVU) one evening and it took my mind to a million places. The episode was about a mentally unstable man who decided to start killing cops. Some police officers watched their partners get shot in the head right in front of their eyes and couldn't do anything about it. They couldn't even find the shooter, which made some of them decide to quit. According to one of them "I would rather be a coward on the beach in Florida than become a dead cop".
The part that really struck me was the speech given to the officers in their precinct by their lieutenant, telling them that even though many people hate cops, and want them dead, they should never forget that their job is to protect and serve these same people. The speech ended with "please try and come back alive". 

I was reading a magazine recently and stumbled on a story that caught my attention.
People who know me very well can tell you that when there is something about women and children, my interest is always heightened. 

So, there I was reading about a protest that was organized by parents of a middle school here in America. This protest was born out of the complaints of the students who felt their rights were being violated, and the school authorities did not care too much about them.
This got me charged up already because I do not tolerate injustice especially when children are involved. I continued to read this article only to find out that the problem was with the kind of food and drinks they were serving them.

I sat down in my living room flipping through pages of a big history book just to make myself feel a little more intelligent. People who know me have come to realize that I love to read, not just to get information but also to expose my mind.
 
Anyway back to the history book I was reading.
I got to a chapter that said "TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE ON THE AMAZON QUEEN MYTHOLOGY". Trust that I took the test believing that I could at least score up to 50%. To my greatest shock I didn't even score up to 30% percent. There were too many names, stories and history that I  did not know of. 

So, I decided to read the full chapter and found the story to be extremely interesting. This may not be a big deal to some people but it is a big deal for me to know these stories, whether real or mythical. 
Let me share a little bit of what I discovered and I hope you will find it interesting.